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Boys pay attention. <3 to jadorebeurre 

jadorebeurre:

1. Sincerity 
Say what you mean and mean what you say. I don’t need to hear that I’m beautiful nor do I need you to profess your love for me after two months. Just be upfront and sincere. It’s a rare quality these days and let me tell you, at 24, I’m not a woman who plays games when it comes to matters of the heart. Call when you say you will. You like me? Tell me. You don’t want to see me? Tell me too. I’m a big girl. I can take anything you throw at me.

2. Good manners 
Hold the door open, refill my glass before you refill yours, pull out my chair, offer me the first bite of a shared dish, say please and thank you (especially to the wait staff!), apologise when you have to, say ‘excuse me’ when you need to, don’t take phone calls during our date unless it’s absolutely important. It’s not that hard to behave like you were brought up by decent human beings and not apes, right?

3. Listen 
When you ask me about my life and I give you an answer, LISTEN. Don’t just nod along and then ask me the same question the next date. Don’t interrupt me to answer your own question with a monologue about your life for 10 whole minutes. If you ask the question, you need to listen to the answer.

4. Sense of humour 
Have one! Nothing worse than making a joke and then have your date respond with, “Huh?” Besides, I judge men based on how humorous they are. If a sense of humour is absent, it’s likely he has a stick up his arse and is no fun at all. 

5. Independence
Nothing worse than a man who can’t stand to be alone. Despite the smear campaign some women have brought upon us, we treasure our independence. If we want to go shoe shopping with our girlfriends, we don’t want to do it and leave our man sitting at home pouting and staring at the clock. Live your own life! Have friends! Go have Boys’ Night Out! Get drunk! Play poker! Play sports! Go talk cars and chicks and investments! We all need an outlet. You don’t see me sitting around talking to you about the latest Thakoon line and how his draping is fantastic and how I covet the latest Dries Van Noten sandals, and how I wish I could afford a Proenza Schouler PS1 satchel, do you? And no, I don’t need to see my man every single night. You are definitely encouraged to have your own life and to sleep in your own bed occasionally. We can spend every night together when we’re married; until then, please feel free to spend some nights with your Playstation 3 :)

6. Share/Be open
Tell me about your life, your family, your work, what makes you tick, what makes you angry, what movies and books you adore, who your friends are, why you love them, the funny thing that happened at work today, that horrible incident in your childhood that got you grounded for a month.This is how relationships are made and bonds are formed. 

7. Give chase
You want me? I should be able to tell. The way I see it, it takes a certain kind of man to have me and I want him to be the kind who’s not afraid of his own feelings and who isn’t uncertain about what he wants. I don’t mean expensive crazy gestures, I mean through mannerisms. You’d set up dates if you were keen. You’d follow up and follow through. You’d go for a kiss on the second date. You’d be keen and it’d be obvious. 

8. Ambition/Drive
I don’t expect the man I date to be successful. Look, we’re all really young right now and we’d be very lucky to be at a point in our lives where everything is working the way we want it to. I’m thinking in our 20s, we’ve got at least two career changes to go before we find the “thing” we want. But if you have ambition and drive, I know you’ll get there. There’s nothing quite as unattractive as a man who’s perfectly content to stew in his current state for eternity. But there is something innately sexy about a man who’s got a dream for himself, and the belief that he would make it there, even if it’ll take him another 20 years to get there.